Why You Keep Saying Yes When You Mean NO!
Here's How to Start Saying Yes to Yourself - Without the Guilt, Drama, or Fallout
You're always the one who compromises
You take on more than you can handle, again and again
You feel taken for granted, but smile through the resentment
You're pulled in every direction and still feel like you're letting someone down
You feel guilty for needing space, rest, or time to think
You're exhausted but don't know how to stop
If you’re nodding along to this list, you don't need another productivity hack and you don't need to snap out of it, you need boundaries.
This isn't a time management issue.
It's a boundary collapse and it's slowly draining your energy, identity, and joy.
This guide gives you 3 trauma-informed, psychology-backed tools to help you pause, tune into what you need, and say NO! without guilt or fear.
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What You'll Get Inside
Why your nervous system resists boundaries (and how to shift it).
A one-line pause that buys you space before overcommitting.
A "Yes/No" self-check to uncover what you really want.
5 clear phrases to honour your needs without confrontation or conflict.
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You’re Not Alone And You’re Not Wrong for Feeling This Way
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”
Brené Brown
“People-pleasing is a form of self-betrayal. Every time you say yes when you mean no, you shrink.”
Mel Robbins
“Fawning — the compulsion to fix or please is a trauma response, not a personality trait.”
Pete Walker
“People-pleasing is not a personality trait, it’s a survival strategy rooted in fear of disconnection.”
Dr. Gabor Maté
This isn’t about being broken. It’s about finally understanding what’s been running the show and choosing something new.
A Personal Note
I see this all the time, in clients, peers, even friends.
Women who show up, hold it all together, do what's expected... but are quietly burning out inside.
We've been conditioned to be agreeable, flexible, helpful, often at the cost of our own needs, energy, and truth. And the result?
Boundaries aren't selfish. They're essential.
This guide is here to show you that saying no doesn't make you difficult, it makes you honest.
You're allowed to protect your peace without apology.
(The first step to reclaiming your voice, energy, and space.)
I hear this all the time from the women I work with…
“Clare helped me... cut cords with past trauma and have boundaries in place that have
helped me release negative emotions and navigate challenges in a more positive way.”
Lisa
“I am not responsible for everyone’s thoughts, feelings or reactions and
what I can offer is enough.”
Alison
“I’m calmer and don’t feel guilty about prioritising my own wellbeing.”
Anon
Their words say it best, boundaries change everything.
